Amie & Patrick – a love story from New York
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We've been together for 5 years now.
We found each other through music. While we were both attending Sarah Lawrence College, we were drawn to play in a bluegrass ensemble where Patrick played banjo and Amie played guitar. We got to know each other better and better through music. Following a fateful performance where Patrick played music for someone dancing in a tree while Amie took photographs, Amie asked Patrick to work for her as she founded the music program for Sarah Lawrence's Early Childhood Center. We sang music for kids and fell in love! Music is really a whole other language for us, and we love to play our original tunes as well as pop songs and old folk ballads. We take walks in the woods near our house, bring friends together for community events, and play-fight whenever possible.
Amie proposed first! She took Patrick up on Sugar Loaf Mountain and proposed domestic partnership with a beautiful poem and the gorgeous Hudson River view. When Patrick said "yes!" they popped champagne and headed down to New York City for a "staycation" at a luxury hotel. A few months later (at sunset on our 4 year anniversary), Patrick took Amie to a nondenominational chapel in Cold Spring, NY (dubbed by Amie and her friends "The Chapel for Lovers"), got on one knee, proposed marriage, and–upon hearing "yes!"–gave Amie his grandmother's diamond ring, popped champagne, and took Amie to dinner in town. As soon as Amie was wearing the ring she allowed Patrick to speak about their future by saying “when” instead of “if.” Before that she had been too superstitious to allow any certain language like that!
Our wedding turned out to be above and beyond any wedding we could dream up! Everybody involved worked so hard to make it beautiful, and it seemed like everybody really enjoyed themselves. There was a personal touch to every single element of the day, and it all came together in an amazing way!
Because we did a potluck wedding with a number of DIY elements (Amie was our wedding planner!), planning involved many logistical tasks, one after another for the 6-8 months leading up to the wedding. You don't really think about just how many vendors you'll need to call (dumpster, kegs, rentals, flowers…) until you're spending hours on the phone, even in the middle of the week (we both work 5 days a week). Patrick and Amie both pitched in, and luckily we had an amazing network of friends (in and beyond our wedding party) who took on elements like potluck coordination, flower arrangements, lighting, set-up, etc. We could not have pulled off such a huge event without such creative dedicated friends and family, and we were lucky to have a recently married couple, Chad and Elaine, step up to be our day-of coordinators!
It was important to us that the wedding be personal. Even though it is, to some extent, "for the guests", we wanted the day to be the truest expression of ourselves possible. That meant spending a lot of time thinking about how to incorporate our friends and family, how be conscious of our environmental impact to the extent it was possible, and how to have a beautiful and meaningful ceremony that was still fun for guests of all ages and social/religious backgrounds.
Any advice you you would give to a bride planning a wedding?
Enjoy the planning process! Keep it simple, but trust your instincts. You really know what you want and need more than anybody else does. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Potluck weddings are so much fun and meaningful for guests (as well as cost effective.) We asked guests to bring a dish instead of a gift, and many were grateful to have that option.