Rebecca & John – a love story from Pennsylvania
We met through a mutual friend at a college concert. I thought he was pretty cute and nice, but I never thought we’d see each other again.
The mutual friend saw the sparks and made sure we’d see each other at his birthday party. We kept in contact thanks to AOL Instant Messenger (oh the old times!) and after coming to John’s 20th birthday party, he asked me to be his girlfriend!
We have been together for nearly 8 years. My how time flies!
I love how John pushes me to grow and always is up for an adventure. He always gets me to laug and we have always just felt this comfortable connection with each other. I love Rebecca’s positive attitude toward people and how she always wants to be the best person she can be.
We love exploring! Whether that’s in a new city, or it’s in Philadelphia, we are always busy. We love attending concerts, meeting up with friends on the town, trying new food and restaurants, and more. But, I also love just being lazy and hanging out around the house.
Rebecca: I ended up finding out John was going to propose when a Facebook message between him and my best friend about rings popped up on my iPad. I have never wanted to know anything about my proposal ahead of time, so that kind of bummed me out. Luckily, John didn’t have the ring at that time, so I was able to pretty much forget about it and get on with it. A month or so later, I came home to our apartment from a long and stressful day of work on a Monday night and just wanted a healthy dinner and to work out. I had found out about a raise that day, so when I came home, John was dressed in my favorite dress shirt of his and said we should go celebrate. I strongly insisted we don’t so that I could work out. He then agreed and said to ease the stress, we ought to just order in and I could pick anywhere. When he was okay with me ordering from this vegan place I love, I should have known (he’s a meat eater who isn’t usually a fan of vegan food usually!).
After we ate, John told me to close my eyes so he could give me a present to celebrate my raise.
I was shocked since I only found out about it a few hours before, but I obliged. I opened my eyes and found him on one knee, saying very sweet things about us and his love, and then he asked me to marry him. He must love me because I was in some old pajamas, with my hair in a messy bun, and giant glasses on. I then called and told everyone because I was so excited!
John: I had been working with Rebecca’s Aunt, a jeweler by trade, for several months trying to figure out what type of ring I should get for Rebecca. This process took forever in my mind, I had originally planned to propose around November, so by the time I got the ring in March I was very eager to propose. I had this plan concocted for Rebecca’s mom and brother, and my family to come to Philly. I would propose in front of the building where we met and then we would all go out to our favorite restaurant and celebrate. With everyone schedules being crazy I would have had to have the ring in my possession for about a month before it was possible to have everyone in Philly for a night. I realized I wouldn’t be able to keep the secret that long and proposed the same day I got the ring.
When Rebecca got home I desperately tried to get her to go out to dinner, using a raise she found out about that day as an excuse. She refused to leave the apartment. Instead we ordered food, I told her it could be from anywhere she wanted, and I proposed after dinner.
Our wedding was held at the National Museum of American Jewish History. It sits in a historic area of Philadelphia, overlooking Independence Hall and the Liberty Bell. It was exactly as we wanted: one giant party. We were very relaxed in the planning and wanted the day to celebrate us, but also to celebrate everyone in our lives. We had a friend marry us, who made our ceremony deeply personal and special. Lots of tears and laughs were had by all and we felt so loved. The dance floor was packed all night and we ended the night feeling like we could keep dancing forever. We really loved our day and everyone who was involved to help!
Rebecca did a lot of DIY things for the wedding, including the vases for our flowers, arranging our flowers (with the help of Rebecca’s mom and 2 bridesmaids) with flowers from a local farm, and we assembled the favors (temporary tattoos with a little sponge for application!). Our guest book was a poster of fun little animals and monsters that guests needed to color in and sign. No fussy guest book for us! Our aim was to be fun, quirky, and relaxed, which is how we feel the wedding went!
Our advice to a couple planning their wedding? Do what makes you happy. We were very lucky because both sets of parents were open to whatever we wanted to do. We didn’t want to do a bouquet toss or a garter toss, so we didn’t! We’re not huge fans of cake, so we had wedding pie instead! We had the day we wanted to have and that made it even more special. And at the end of the day? Remember that there are real problems and struggles happening in the world; your wedding isn’t one of them!